Survivors throughout history are those who have best adapted to change. Charles Darwin, famous for his theory of evolution said, “It’s not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” But change often brings up fear. Clinging. Panic. People don’t want to venture into the unknown and leave what they know behind. Willingness to go forward into the unknown requires faith in the future, or at least, an adventuresome spirit.
Change means letting go of the past and that which was familiar. Clinging to the past causes undue suffering and prevents new, often better, circumstances from entering our lives. Resistance to change is resistance to the forward flow of life. When you are more conscious of allowing change to happen, even when it is scary, you create fluidity. You become more in sync with the natural flow.
To help hone your life survival skills involving change, let’s answer a few questions to gain clarity.
When in the past have you responded well to change?
When have you not responded to change as well as you would have liked?
How do you feel when you know there is a big change coming? In what way does your resistance reveal itself? For example, eating more, worry, insomnia, anger, etc.
What is your usual reaction to sudden change?
What is the worst that can happen if everything in your life were to change?
You can use affirmations to help settle your mind around change, such as:
- I easily adapt to change
- I will adapt to this new way of life
- I can flow with what life brings
- If it’s happening, it must be ok, and I will also be ok.
Focus on how you want to feel when change comes: happy, confident, secure. And finally, when I’m resisting change, I keep in mind a quote by 14th century mystic Julian of Norwich ~
“All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of thing(s) shall be well.”